Thursday, April 16, 2009
Monday, April 13, 2009
The Love between Mother and Daughter is never ending….
The Love between Mother and Daughter is never ending….
When I was 8 years old my Mother had a mini-stroke while my Father was out of town. A friend found her and took her to the hospital. While in the ICU, the first thing my Mother said to me was “but I was supposed to make you macaroni and cheese. THAT is a Mother’s Love. Thinking of your child first despite what else is going on in your world. Not Even a stroke could curtail my Mothers overwhelming love for me.
I experienced selfless acts of love like this from my Mother my whole life. She was my biggest supporter, my confidant and best friend.
On Easter 2008, my Mother made an hour and half just to come see me. You may be thinking, “big deal, that’s not a long drive”. Well, you see my Mother was fighting for her life. That previous October she had been diagnosed with stage IV Non Small Cell Lung Cancer after having a massive seizure and finding a mass in her lung and subsequent metastases.
That Easter will remain in my heart forever. After spending the day together I was helping her into the car and I thanked her for coming. She looked up at me and said, “ I would never miss an opportunity to see you”. I could feel the love coming from her heart, eyes, body and soul. . I will remember that moment for the rest of my life.
For Christmas 2007 I gave my mother a bracelet with this engraved upon it. “The Love between Mother and Daughter is never ending”. She wore this bracelet through all her treatments and during her declining health. ON August 13, 2008 my beautiful, loving, selfless Mother passed from this life to the next. My Life will never be the same but the LOVE she showed me will last forever. Upon my Mothers headstone will be the inscription “the love between Mother and Daughter is never ending”. I periodically wear that bracelet in Honor of the Love we shared.
Love remains. I love you Mom. Thank you for teaching me to love unconditionally. Christi
When I was 8 years old my Mother had a mini-stroke while my Father was out of town. A friend found her and took her to the hospital. While in the ICU, the first thing my Mother said to me was “but I was supposed to make you macaroni and cheese. THAT is a Mother’s Love. Thinking of your child first despite what else is going on in your world. Not Even a stroke could curtail my Mothers overwhelming love for me.
I experienced selfless acts of love like this from my Mother my whole life. She was my biggest supporter, my confidant and best friend.
On Easter 2008, my Mother made an hour and half just to come see me. You may be thinking, “big deal, that’s not a long drive”. Well, you see my Mother was fighting for her life. That previous October she had been diagnosed with stage IV Non Small Cell Lung Cancer after having a massive seizure and finding a mass in her lung and subsequent metastases.
That Easter will remain in my heart forever. After spending the day together I was helping her into the car and I thanked her for coming. She looked up at me and said, “ I would never miss an opportunity to see you”. I could feel the love coming from her heart, eyes, body and soul. . I will remember that moment for the rest of my life.
For Christmas 2007 I gave my mother a bracelet with this engraved upon it. “The Love between Mother and Daughter is never ending”. She wore this bracelet through all her treatments and during her declining health. ON August 13, 2008 my beautiful, loving, selfless Mother passed from this life to the next. My Life will never be the same but the LOVE she showed me will last forever. Upon my Mothers headstone will be the inscription “the love between Mother and Daughter is never ending”. I periodically wear that bracelet in Honor of the Love we shared.
Love remains. I love you Mom. Thank you for teaching me to love unconditionally. Christi
1 year later...
It has been 1 year since My Sister N Law Leysa's life was tragically cut short on April 11, 2008. Her husband took her life and then his own. While her physical presence is no longer here, she lives on through the children that call both of us MOM.
Domestic Violence/Domestic Homicide is a Crime which affects people of every race, religion, sex, and financial status. Domestic violence DESTROYS any family or relationship it touches, unless it is recognized, treated and stopped!
Facts on Domestic Homicide
"In the U.S., estimates from the Bureau of Justice Statistics (BJS) are that more than three women a day are killed by their intimate partners. Women are killed by intimate partners more often than by another acquaintance of stranger. Most of these murders involved were preceded by physical and psychological abuse. The pattern that emerges in these cases involves intimate partners in the 20 to 35-year-old range: The man is abusive, psychologically and/or physically. Obsessed with the woman to the extent that he feels he can’t live without her, he is fiercely jealous and determined to isolate her. Characteristically, suicidal murderers have little regard for the lives of other people; they would be considered, in mental health jargon, to be antisocial. Yet they are so emotionally dependent on their wives or girlfriends that they would sooner be dead than to live without them. When the girlfriend/wife makes a move to leave, her partner is absolutely distraught in the belief that he can’t live without her". http://www.helpstartshere.org/Default.aspx?PageID=1248
RIP Leysa~ Oct.17, 1974--April 11, 2008
Other resources:
The National Organization of Parents of Murdered Children
www.pomc.com
The Children's Bereavement Center
www.cbcst.org
Crime Victim Services Program
www.txdps.state.tx.us/
Federal Agencies and Resources
www.txdps.state.tx.us/administration/staff_support/victimservices/pages/federalagenciesandresources.htm
Domestic Violence/Domestic Homicide is a Crime which affects people of every race, religion, sex, and financial status. Domestic violence DESTROYS any family or relationship it touches, unless it is recognized, treated and stopped!
Facts on Domestic Homicide
"In the U.S., estimates from the Bureau of Justice Statistics (BJS) are that more than three women a day are killed by their intimate partners. Women are killed by intimate partners more often than by another acquaintance of stranger. Most of these murders involved were preceded by physical and psychological abuse. The pattern that emerges in these cases involves intimate partners in the 20 to 35-year-old range: The man is abusive, psychologically and/or physically. Obsessed with the woman to the extent that he feels he can’t live without her, he is fiercely jealous and determined to isolate her. Characteristically, suicidal murderers have little regard for the lives of other people; they would be considered, in mental health jargon, to be antisocial. Yet they are so emotionally dependent on their wives or girlfriends that they would sooner be dead than to live without them. When the girlfriend/wife makes a move to leave, her partner is absolutely distraught in the belief that he can’t live without her". http://www.helpstartshere.org/Default.aspx?PageID=1248
RIP Leysa~ Oct.17, 1974--April 11, 2008
Other resources:
The National Organization of Parents of Murdered Children
www.pomc.com
The Children's Bereavement Center
www.cbcst.org
Crime Victim Services Program
www.txdps.state.tx.us/
Federal Agencies and Resources
www.txdps.state.tx.us/administration/staff_support/victimservices/pages/federalagenciesandresources.htm
Friday, March 27, 2009
Missing my Mom.
The other day I was really missing my Mom and my Dad had come over. I lost it and started crying. My Dad didn't know what to do with me. The next day I received an email from him that was so simplistic but really rang true.
LOVE, DAD
p.s. we will always miss your Mom,
we will always love your Mom,
someday we will meet your Mom.
LOVE, DAD
p.s. we will always miss your Mom,
we will always love your Mom,
someday we will meet your Mom.
Monday, March 23, 2009
Mothers
For those who are lucky to still be blessed with your Mom this is beautiful. For those who aren't, this is even more beautiful.
The young mother set her foot on the path of life. "Is this the long way?" she asked.
And the guide said, "Yes, and the way is hard. And you will be old before you reach the end of it. But the end will be better than the beginning."
But the young mother was happy, and she would not believe that anything could be better than these years. So she played with her children, she fed them and bathed them, and taught them how to tie their shoes and ride a bike and reminded them to feed the dog and do their homework and brush their teeth.
The sun shone on them, and the young Mother cried, "Nothing will ever be lovelier than this." Then the nights came, and the storms, and the path was sometimes dark, and the children shook with fear and cold, and the mother drew them close and covered them with her arms, and the children said, "Mother, we are not afraid, for you are near, and no harm can come."
And the morning came, and there was a hill ahead, and the children climbed and grew weary, and the mother was weary. But at all times she said to the children, a little patience and we are there."
So the children climbed, and as they climbed they learned to weather the storms. And with this, she gave them strength to face the world. Year after year, she showed them compassion, understanding, hope, but most of all…unconditional love. And when they reached the top they said, "Mother, we would not have done it without you."
The days went on, and the weeks and the months and the years, and the mother grew old and she became little and bent. But her children were tall and strong, and walked with courage. And the mother, when she lay down at night, looked up at the stars and said, "This is a better day than the last, for my children have learned so much and are now passing these traits on to their children."
And when the way became rough for her, they lifted her, and gave her their strength, just as she had given them hers. One day they came to a hill, and beyond the hill, they could see a shining road and golden gates flung wide. And mother said: "I have reached the end of my journey. And now I know the end is better than the beginning, for my children can walk with dignity and pride, with their heads held high, and so can their children after them."
And the children said, " You will always walk with us, Mother, even when you have gone through the gates." And they stood and watched her as she went on alone, and the gates closed after her. And they said: "We cannot see her, but she is with us still. A Mother like ours is more than a memory. She is a living presence."
Your Mother is always with you. She's the whisper of the leaves as you walk down the street, she's the smell of certain foods you remember, flowers you pick and perfume that she wore, she's the cool hand on your brow when you're not feeling well, she's your breath in the air on a cold winter's day. She is the sound of the rain that lulls you to sleep, the colors of a rainbow, she is Christmas morning.
Your Mother lives inside your laughter. And she's crystallized in every teardrop. A mother shows every emotion...happiness, sadness, fear, jealousy, love, hate, anger, helplessness, excitement, joy, sorrow.... and all the while, hoping and praying you will only know the good feelings in life. She's the place you came from, your first home, and she's the map you follow with every step you take. She's your first love; your first friend, even your first enemy, but nothing on earth can separate you. Not time, not space...not even death!
Friday, March 20, 2009
Dancing with my father...
Today was one of those "aha" days. I took my dad to the hospital for a colonoscopy. 3 years ago they found several precancerous polyps during his procedure. Cancer is rampant in his family and the question is not if he will get cancer but when. So, we both faced today with some trepidation.
As we are sitting in the prep area, the all to family feeling of nervousness set upon me. Not to long ago I faced cancer head on when my Mom valiantly fought lung cancer. It was then that my thoughts were interrupted as my dad said, "you know Christi if I have advanced cancer I'm not getting any treatment". As the lump in my stomach settled he began to explain that after seeing my mom die the way she did, he had no plans on putting himself through the same. We then went on to discuss advanced directives and such. No machines, if its his time...its his time. No heroic measures!
As my dad was taken away for his procedure I was left alone with my thoughts thinking....OMG what if he does has cancer......I would be an orphan! Life's hard, I get it....but come on! This past year has drilled the point in. We are all mortals and as such WILL die. But why do some have to die/suffer so young.........
As we are sitting in the prep area, the all to family feeling of nervousness set upon me. Not to long ago I faced cancer head on when my Mom valiantly fought lung cancer. It was then that my thoughts were interrupted as my dad said, "you know Christi if I have advanced cancer I'm not getting any treatment". As the lump in my stomach settled he began to explain that after seeing my mom die the way she did, he had no plans on putting himself through the same. We then went on to discuss advanced directives and such. No machines, if its his time...its his time. No heroic measures!
As my dad was taken away for his procedure I was left alone with my thoughts thinking....OMG what if he does has cancer......I would be an orphan! Life's hard, I get it....but come on! This past year has drilled the point in. We are all mortals and as such WILL die. But why do some have to die/suffer so young.........
Sunday, March 8, 2009
Bittersweet day comments....
Annette Siegel at 5:26pm February 18
Congratulations!!!! I wish all of you the best!!!
Susan Smylie at 5:32pm February 18
Congratulations, Christi. Adoption always has a bittersweet aspect to it. You are right, that all kids deserve loving parents and I am glad you are able to offer that for your whole family :) You know something interesting about being an adoptive parent that I have heard from more than one--you get to where you think you are remembering their birth experience--like you gave birth to them. It is weird, but has happened with me--and I did not get Leah until she was 15. They truly do become yours.
Betty Fuller at 5:36pm February 18
God Bless All of you, and wish you all the best!!!!!!
Kimberly Burton Brillhart at 5:47pm February 18
Congrats! What a blessing!
Christi Carman Moczygemba at 5:53pm February 18
Thank you! It has been a wonderful day!Nicholas asked if the judge was going to give him a note for school!!
Susan Smylie at 5:58pm February 18
hah, that is cute. I also wanted to say I think it is great you created such wonderful memories of the adoption day. We did not really do that either time and I wish we had of. We did have a huge party for Matthew, but he was also turning 1, so it was all wrapped up together.
Jeanne Ashinhurst Friesenhahn at 6:11pm February 18
Congrats!!! We the Friesenhahn's wish the Moczygemba family the very best!!!!
Jennifer Pelech at 6:14pm February 18
Congrats!!! I am so excited for you guys....
Daniel Moczygemba at 6:29pm February 18
this truly is an awesome day. i wish i would have witnessed it, i was probably at the courthouse! you and rob are great people. those two kids are super lucky.
Heather Montgomery at 6:47pm February 18
Hey great news!
Ron Carter at 6:50pm February 18
I'm pretty sure it'll be smooth sailing for those kiddos from now on compared to what they've been through. I'm sorry for the loss everyone had to go through, but really happy to hear what you and Rob are doing. You guys are super cool!! I knew I liked y'all for a reason.
Vanessa Green Younts at 7:01pm February 18
YAYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY.....what a wonderful day for all of you. The beginning of a new page in your book. :) You and Rob are truly special people and those kiddos are in great hands.
Cat Johnston at 7:02pm February 18
What a wonderful story. Congratulations to everyone. I will add your day to my calendar!
Bridget Pendergraft at 7:22pm February 18
congratulations!!!! u have a beautiful family!
Laurie La Masa Hoffman at 7:35pm February 18
Congratulations on your adoption! I read your post from April and I think these two children as so blessed to have you and your husband in their lives.... Congratulations again!
Kristi Beauchamp Grimes at 7:44pm February 18
That is so awesome - especially that ya'll made a fun, special, and memorable day out of it for the kiddos! Congratulations to a new, huge Moczygemba clan!! Good luck when they're all teenagers!!
Susan Mints Taylor at 7:47pm February 18
YEAH!!!! May God Bless you all on your new journey in life!! Hugs to you all.
Becky Toeppich at 7:48pm February 18
Yay! Congratulations!I can't wait to see you all next weekend!
Pamula Reeves-Barker at 9:16pm February 18
Congratulations! I am very happy for all of you!
Suzanne Stone Shaw at 9:24pm February 18
YYYYYYYYYYYYYEEEEEEEEEEEEAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I am so excited for all of you. I can't wait to meet Arden and Nicholas. You and Rob are incredible people. God Bless all of you and we will see you in a week. Love you girl!
Wayne Hinds at 9:39pm February 18
Congratulations for the kidos. They will one day look back and realize how lucky they are. I have much much respect for you and your husband. You have amazing kindness and love.
Melanie Morton Viktorin at 10:01pm February 18
Christi! I am so happy for you all i am crying happy tears myself. Love and hugs to you all.
Diane Superits Meier at 10:17pm February 18
Congrats Christi. Thats awesome. You'll do a great job.
Lorelei Rodgers at 10:46pm February 18
Congratulations to all of you! We are so happy for you guys and we wish you the best in everything.
Brian Cheatham at 2:32am February 19
Congrats! Both you and Rob are simply amazing! You have a good looking family! God bless and it looks like you'll be busy!
Greg Vajdos at 7:23am February 19
Congratulations, Rob & Christi! You two are great people and all four kids are very lucky to have you.
Matt Peacock at 8:02am February 19
Congrats Christi!!
Roxanne Koenig Barry at 8:05am February 19
Congratulations! What a Happy Day! You guys are special people! Hugs to you all!
Carol Tokar Pavliska at 8:43am February 19
Beautiful family, Christi. Congratulations on making it official!
Angela Luna at 9:21am February 19
That is so awesome!! I'm glad things have worked out in your favor. I see how dedicated you are to them and the rest of your family. It really is admirable what you've done for those babies. Have a great day!!
Angie Stockwell at 9:56am February 19
What an incredible thing you have done! I pray God will continue to bless you, especially since you have blessed those children in an undescribable way!
Amanda King Latka at 10:05am February 19
Congrats!! I'm so happy for all of you. That's wonderful news! Those kids are so adorable. Ya'll will be awesome for them!! Take Care and God Bless!
Christi Carman Moczygemba at 10:48am February 19
Thank you all for the kind words. We are truly blessed!
Aimee Lathon at 12:12pm February 19
Such a blessing for all of you! I have a brother and two sisters who are adopted and I could not imagine my life without them.
Ronnie Rocha at 2:20pm February 19
Hey Rob. I was there that same day and didn't realize what was going on. Congratulations to y'all both. The kids were having a great time running around being kids.
Samantha Hopkins at 4:31pm February 19
Congrats!!!!!
Casey Pietka at 9:33pm February 19
Congratulations!! I am so happy that they have such a supportive and wonderful family.
Amy Oates at 11:45pm February 19
Moczygemba family - congratulations, our love to you all.
Jill Ledford Saucer at 8:53am February 20
Congrats!!! You both are a blessing for those kids. What an amazing story!!
Michelle Hunt Tejada at 5:30pm February 20
Congratulations!
Christi Carman Moczygemba at 5:48pm February 20
Thanks guys!
Congratulations!!!! I wish all of you the best!!!
Susan Smylie at 5:32pm February 18
Congratulations, Christi. Adoption always has a bittersweet aspect to it. You are right, that all kids deserve loving parents and I am glad you are able to offer that for your whole family :) You know something interesting about being an adoptive parent that I have heard from more than one--you get to where you think you are remembering their birth experience--like you gave birth to them. It is weird, but has happened with me--and I did not get Leah until she was 15. They truly do become yours.
Betty Fuller at 5:36pm February 18
God Bless All of you, and wish you all the best!!!!!!
Kimberly Burton Brillhart at 5:47pm February 18
Congrats! What a blessing!
Christi Carman Moczygemba at 5:53pm February 18
Thank you! It has been a wonderful day!Nicholas asked if the judge was going to give him a note for school!!
Susan Smylie at 5:58pm February 18
hah, that is cute. I also wanted to say I think it is great you created such wonderful memories of the adoption day. We did not really do that either time and I wish we had of. We did have a huge party for Matthew, but he was also turning 1, so it was all wrapped up together.
Jeanne Ashinhurst Friesenhahn at 6:11pm February 18
Congrats!!! We the Friesenhahn's wish the Moczygemba family the very best!!!!
Jennifer Pelech at 6:14pm February 18
Congrats!!! I am so excited for you guys....
Daniel Moczygemba at 6:29pm February 18
this truly is an awesome day. i wish i would have witnessed it, i was probably at the courthouse! you and rob are great people. those two kids are super lucky.
Heather Montgomery at 6:47pm February 18
Hey great news!
Ron Carter at 6:50pm February 18
I'm pretty sure it'll be smooth sailing for those kiddos from now on compared to what they've been through. I'm sorry for the loss everyone had to go through, but really happy to hear what you and Rob are doing. You guys are super cool!! I knew I liked y'all for a reason.
Vanessa Green Younts at 7:01pm February 18
YAYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY.....what a wonderful day for all of you. The beginning of a new page in your book. :) You and Rob are truly special people and those kiddos are in great hands.
Cat Johnston at 7:02pm February 18
What a wonderful story. Congratulations to everyone. I will add your day to my calendar!
Bridget Pendergraft at 7:22pm February 18
congratulations!!!! u have a beautiful family!
Laurie La Masa Hoffman at 7:35pm February 18
Congratulations on your adoption! I read your post from April and I think these two children as so blessed to have you and your husband in their lives.... Congratulations again!
Kristi Beauchamp Grimes at 7:44pm February 18
That is so awesome - especially that ya'll made a fun, special, and memorable day out of it for the kiddos! Congratulations to a new, huge Moczygemba clan!! Good luck when they're all teenagers!!
Susan Mints Taylor at 7:47pm February 18
YEAH!!!! May God Bless you all on your new journey in life!! Hugs to you all.
Becky Toeppich at 7:48pm February 18
Yay! Congratulations!I can't wait to see you all next weekend!
Pamula Reeves-Barker at 9:16pm February 18
Congratulations! I am very happy for all of you!
Suzanne Stone Shaw at 9:24pm February 18
YYYYYYYYYYYYYEEEEEEEEEEEEAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I am so excited for all of you. I can't wait to meet Arden and Nicholas. You and Rob are incredible people. God Bless all of you and we will see you in a week. Love you girl!
Wayne Hinds at 9:39pm February 18
Congratulations for the kidos. They will one day look back and realize how lucky they are. I have much much respect for you and your husband. You have amazing kindness and love.
Melanie Morton Viktorin at 10:01pm February 18
Christi! I am so happy for you all i am crying happy tears myself. Love and hugs to you all.
Diane Superits Meier at 10:17pm February 18
Congrats Christi. Thats awesome. You'll do a great job.
Lorelei Rodgers at 10:46pm February 18
Congratulations to all of you! We are so happy for you guys and we wish you the best in everything.
Brian Cheatham at 2:32am February 19
Congrats! Both you and Rob are simply amazing! You have a good looking family! God bless and it looks like you'll be busy!
Greg Vajdos at 7:23am February 19
Congratulations, Rob & Christi! You two are great people and all four kids are very lucky to have you.
Matt Peacock at 8:02am February 19
Congrats Christi!!
Roxanne Koenig Barry at 8:05am February 19
Congratulations! What a Happy Day! You guys are special people! Hugs to you all!
Carol Tokar Pavliska at 8:43am February 19
Beautiful family, Christi. Congratulations on making it official!
Angela Luna at 9:21am February 19
That is so awesome!! I'm glad things have worked out in your favor. I see how dedicated you are to them and the rest of your family. It really is admirable what you've done for those babies. Have a great day!!
Angie Stockwell at 9:56am February 19
What an incredible thing you have done! I pray God will continue to bless you, especially since you have blessed those children in an undescribable way!
Amanda King Latka at 10:05am February 19
Congrats!! I'm so happy for all of you. That's wonderful news! Those kids are so adorable. Ya'll will be awesome for them!! Take Care and God Bless!
Christi Carman Moczygemba at 10:48am February 19
Thank you all for the kind words. We are truly blessed!
Aimee Lathon at 12:12pm February 19
Such a blessing for all of you! I have a brother and two sisters who are adopted and I could not imagine my life without them.
Ronnie Rocha at 2:20pm February 19
Hey Rob. I was there that same day and didn't realize what was going on. Congratulations to y'all both. The kids were having a great time running around being kids.
Samantha Hopkins at 4:31pm February 19
Congrats!!!!!
Casey Pietka at 9:33pm February 19
Congratulations!! I am so happy that they have such a supportive and wonderful family.
Amy Oates at 11:45pm February 19
Moczygemba family - congratulations, our love to you all.
Jill Ledford Saucer at 8:53am February 20
Congrats!!! You both are a blessing for those kids. What an amazing story!!
Michelle Hunt Tejada at 5:30pm February 20
Congratulations!
Christi Carman Moczygemba at 5:48pm February 20
Thanks guys!
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